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When it comes to texting, which gender is more expressive?
By Kim Cooper Findling
Indiana University researchers recently determined that when it comes to texting, women are the more expressive sex. Compared with men, they concluded, women write messages closest to the character-count limit, use more abbreviations and insertions and employ more emoticons (like smiling and frowning faces).
Bend resident and text fanatic Jacqueline Smith, 22, says she isn’t surprised. “Women rock,” she says. Smith not only agrees with the study’s determination that women were more inclined to text messages that expressed enthusiasm, sadness, emphasis and individuality, she thinks it’s a sign of a more complex form of the method. “We’re already so accustomed to multi-tasking. We can vacuum, make a cup of tea, check email, listen to music and text all at the same time. Guys don’t seem to do that.”
But Smith disagrees with research conclusions that women use more non-standard language, like the abbreviations OMG (oh my God) and CU (see you)."I think that men tend to shorten words more when texting,” she says. “I don’t abbreviate—I spell things out.”
A Growing Trend
Regardless of how they text, more and more members of both genders are texting these days. The practice has become so common that most people will admit to at least attempting to send a text—even if it took them ten minutes to input their message.
It’s possible that a majority of people currently tolerate texting. Then there are those who love texting.
Smith says she sends and receives a total average of 30 texts a day during the week. (If that seems like a lot, consider that 15-year-old Kate Moore of Iowa, who recently won the LG U.S. National Texting Championship, sends an average of 400 to 470 texts a day.) Smith claims many advantages, including saving phone minutes, quick delivery of a message and the ability to have multiple conversations at once. “Personally, I hate voice mail,” she says. So much so in fact that she recently hired a service called phonetag.com that translates her voicemails into text messages. “I don’t want to use my minutes to check voicemail.”
Heidi Berkman, 40, also a texting fan, agrees that women are more likely to spell out words and run out of characters. “It’s not uncommon for women to have to send two different messages to say what they need to say,” she says. Berkman’s female friends are more likely than men to text to make plans or relay quick updates. But she appreciates the opportunity to text with men for another reason—flirting. “Texting is fun and it’s easy to banter back and forth,” she explains. “Flirting comes partly because of what’s in the message but also because it’s instant. It increases the fun and allure.”
Central Oregon Community College Professor of Speech Communication Karen Huck says that if women do text more often and more expressively, that would align with research on spoken communication. “The previous data on feminine-style communicators versus masculine-style communicators suggests that masculine-style communicators are more concerned with hierarchy and independence and female-style communicators are more concerned with connection and interdependence,” she explains. “Texting seems to be a highly connective/interdependent activity.”
Women may just be more expressive in general. “Previous research has also shown that women tend to use more complex facial expressions and change topic more often during conversation,” says Huck. “This seems to be related, in part, to the expressive, rather than the rhetorical function of communication.” Or maybe women are more texting-fluent simply because of the keypad. “Heck,” concludes Huck, “Texting also requires smaller hands to do with any comfort!”
A Downside
Both Berkman and Smith are quick to point out disadvantages to texting, too.
Smith is in a long-distance relationship. When it comes to romance, she says, texting can take away from other more meaningful forms of communication. “Voice time is really important,” she says. “We end up texting more than talking on the phone, and it doesn’t compare.” When never to text, according to Smith: “To break up with someone. That’s horrible.” Not that (fortunately) she’s suffered such an insult personally.
Relationships aside from the romantic are not always amenable to texting, either. “My father gets so annoyed,” says Smith.
“I think you have to be careful with it,” says Berkman who sends and receives ten to twenty texts a day. When it comes to flirting, she says, “There’s so much room for misunderstanding. It can be fun but frustrating if you feel you aren’t getting the answer you’d hoped for.” Too much can be read into a poorly communicated message—or worse, one that is unreturned.
Workplace etiquette must be taken into consideration, too. “It’s good for casual conversation or to communicate information, but beyond that you have to use caution, especially professionally,” says Berkman, who works as a marketing and special events consultant. Is there a time when you shouldn’t text? “Yeah,” she says. “When you are driving.”
Smith likens text messaging to Facebook and other social networking Web sites. “We feel like we’re keeping in touch, but aren’t really. Texting doesn’t compete with real face time. I think a lot of us are misled by that. It’s fun. But it’s not reality.”